Get help for yourself
It’s easy to advise: Leave it now! Why even wonder if you’re stupid?
It’s rarely easy to leave a relationship. A spouse who pushes and rages when they get upset may be kind and gentle on other days.
Not everyone can be helped by therapeutic means.
«There are many sides to every person. No one is just bad. We humans are also built to believe good things about each other. That’s not stupidity, it’s a wonderful trait,» says Hyvärinen.
«Unfortunately, it is also true that not everyone can be helped by therapeutic means. If your partner blames others for their violent behaviour and refuses to seek help, you need to leave the relationship.»
Start by seeking help for yourself. Even if the situation seems hopeless, violence professionals can advise you on the next step.
