Grief is the price of love
And as a friend, can you do something about someone else’s long-standing grief?
Some people find help in peer support groups, where you can look up a friend’s schedule. Others find help in being able to talk to a confidential professional.
Minna Tani also values having a friend with listening ears close to the bereaved.
«But you shouldn’t feed the grief. If a friend doesn’t seem to be talking about anything else and a long time has passed, you can at least say to someone close enough that we’ll talk about something else next time. You can express your concern about him or her.»
Think about how your loved one would want you to move on. Would he or she want you to grieve endlessly?
One important thought for many is to think about how the lost loved one would wish for the survivor to carry on with their life.
«You might think that he wouldn’t want me to just grieve endlessly either, and that my life would be wasted in the process.»
In the midst of grief, you can also think you’ve gained a lot. If you hadn’t loved, you wouldn’t be grieving.
«The risk of loving is that sometimes you have to grieve.»
