1. DECIDE, RATHER THAN SLIDE, INTO MOVING IN TOGETHER
It may be tempting to move in together out of convenience. There can be all kinds of practical reasons — your lease is up, you spend so much time at your partner’s place anyway, you’ll both save money, your roommate just moved out. Maybe you don’t even live in the same city, and one of you is ready to move cross-country due to the inconvenience and expenses of travelling back and forth.
2. FIGURE OUT WHERE YOU’LL MOVE IN TOGETHER AND WHAT YOU’LL BRING
“In an ideal world it’s nice to move into a space that’s fresh without any memories of the past,” says Minal Nebhnani, Licenced Professional Clinical Counselor with Honest Space Psychotherapy. “But if someone is moving into someone else’s space, treat it as a new space rather than someone else’s old space. The person moving in should have equal say about what stays and what goes, how to decorate, etc. They should feel the space is theirs as much as it is their partner’s.”
